If you want to have stability, normally culture tells you to have the same foods and routines every day. Of course, there’s no way to maintain that during travel. So how can you find that sense of stability on the road?
One of Stacey-jean’s big concerns initially was that the family wouldn’t be able to maintain or produce stability once they started traveling. We were living on a beautiful farm in Lancaster County. By all accounts, we were stable, with a come, steady income, stability, and routine. However, as we came together as a family unit, we found there was consistency in travel that came from within, as we worked as a family. Josiah said that as a large family, we were able to create our own peer group and memories together. We create memories that stay with the entire family. Our ability to share those memories (playing the “memory game,” as the children call it) provides us with a sense of stability.
So does travel work against stability? Ask yourself this: does the simple act of staying in one place create stability, on its own? Not necessarily. Stability is something that is born within the family, no matter where you are. Stability and the basic things that give children roots can come from within the family unit. As we’ve mentioned in other posts, slow travel helps, staying in one place for weeks to months at a time. Generally we stay for a minimum of 3 weeks in any particular place, which allows us to maintain a routine and rest. It takes a while to move in and find stability in each place. Another thing that helps is that our lifestyle and routines can be picked up and brought along with us. For example, the bedtime routines. Brent generally does bedtime. He sings with the children, prays with them, tells stories, it doesn’t matter where where are. We would encourage you to create your own family memories and consider how you could create a vision for travel and stability within your own family. What routines could you work into every day, no matter where you are?
One of the greatest stabilities that we can provide for our children is a mama and papa who are able to stay home full-time with the family. This is the reason we took off to travel in the first place. We didn’t want to have so many outside expectations to deal with that we’d miss the growth of our children. To summarize, it is the togetherness of our family that is our primary stability. Out of this is born the memories, companionship, and routine that provide us with a sense of stability.