Travel: My Spouse Doesn't Want to Go

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Travel: My Spouse Doesn’t Want to Go

So, you want to travel! You’ve done your research, read other travel blogs, and your imagination is on fire. You can’t wait to get started… but your spouse isn’t as enthusiastic. What do you do when your spouse doesn’t want to travel? This is a question we often receive, so we’d like to offer our solution!

Question #1: Whose idea was it to travel, anyway?

Both of us were interested in travel at around the same time. We’ve been pulling together on this journey all along.

Question #2: What if my spouse doesn’t want to travel, but I do?

The best/simplest answer to this question: don’t do it. It’s not worth the constant friction that will happen all along the journey if you’re not together on the idea. Definitely do not take off traveling without your spouse on board with you.

How can you encourage your spouse to get on board with full-time travel?

The short answer: everybody makes their decisions based upon the information they receive. If you fill your mind with the idea that you must follow a fixed routine every day and at the same place; you will have your desired outcome. If instead, you will read more widely about different cultures, about how different people do different things around the world, you can’t help but to influence yourself one another about what you read. Read travel articles and blogs together, talk about where you’d like to go together, create the dream together.

We never expected to travel full-time internationally. We were originally working as farmers in Lancaster County. We didn’t have our own farm (we were renting), we were working constantly, and we didn’t have the time we wanted to spend with our children. Then, a spontaneous camping trip sparked the desire to travel. We started small, camping within the States, and it took off from there. Our advice to you is to work with your spouse every step of the way, start small, and don’t give up on your vision.

In Moses’ words, “Teach us to number our days, that we might apply our hearts to wisdom.” Another poet says, “Our days are like sand, flowing through our fingers.”

You have these short moments with your children. Whatever your belief system centres around, we all have just a few moments with our children.

We encourage you to seize those moments and think outside of the box. When you get to the end of your life, what do you want to have given to your children? Think about those things, and feel free to ask us any further questions.

Travel: My Spouse Doesn't Want to Go


Brent and Stacey-jean Inion
Brent and Stacey-jean Inion
Brent and Stacey-jean Inion, parents of nine (including four children adopted with special needs), 2014 National Geographic Travelers of the Year and the National Geographic Travelers People's Choice Travelers of the Year. They love to laugh, to read and to explore as a family. The secret to their marital bliss is an early morning cup of freshly brewed coffee before the children awake.

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